Men: 7 Keys To Reconnect With Your Estranged Partner

When a woman wants to leave a relationship they often will have tried everything they can before giving up. Sometimes they still continue loving their man. Sometimes their anger and pain are so great that there is no space for love; all they want is to be away from their partner, heal their wounds and move on. If you are the partner of such a woman and you want to reconnect with your estranged partner you need to understand her and the few things you can do.

Why Women Want To Leave

I know a lot about couples problems. Frequently each partner feels victimised. They tend to express themselves to be heard and be recognised as a real person with genuine needs; and they protest when they fail.

Research with couples indicates there will always be unresolved conflictual matters between couples. The couples start off by talking to each other and they discover their differences as they attempt to negotiate. Women tend to bring up issues – wanting to come to a resolution to her liking so that the relationship can flourish. The men, more often than they want to admit, tend to blow off with anger or withdraw emotionally and close off. This isn’t their fault. It’s how they are with each other too. It’s just that women aren’t built that way when it comes to emotion.

I see this situation as the beginning of the end. Neither gets what they need and want. They stop supporting each other physically and emotionally. As the frustration grows couples find millions of ways to hurt each other. Then one day she says she has had enough and wants to leave.

Recently I have received several inquiries from men whose partners decided to leave. They ask me how they can reconnect with their estranged partners.

Men: How To Reconnect With Your Partner

Here are 7 simple keys you can use:

1) Own up to your part in your partner’s suffering. Accept their right to make this decision. Avoid blaming others at all costs for the situation.

2) Accept that your relationship as it was has ended. Tell your partner you are sad and let them see that you can mourn for it.

3) Instead of telling your partner it is time to start a new relationship you are going to renew yourself. Feel the passion and belief arising in you. This is the beginning of a new era. You are going to win her heart once again. Let your creativity and humor loose.

4) Learn the skills you need to communicate and act in a more mature way. You can do this by looking around for role models and by working with a therapist

5) Listen to her wishes and show how you changed by respecting them even if it hurts you.

6) Continue supporting her and your kids (if you have any) financially and emotionally lovingly.

7) When you truly take the time you will find within yourself the person you always hoped you would become. It could, however, take time to communicate this to your partner and regain her trust. Be patient and determined. More importantly enjoy the process.

Remember, if you do all of this and the relationship still stalls you will still come out of it a stronger and wiser person.