Couples: How To Stay Together in Harmony
Most adults have a natural desire and need to find their soul mate. Evolution is one reason, the other is tradition. Whatever the background to the union, couples stay together in harmony when they embody certain characteristics. This post is about what it takes to be one of those couples.
A combination of evolution, tradition and desire brought you together. Making it work has multitude benefits for you, for your partner, and for your kids. To stay together in harmony is down to you.
Importance Of Being Together In Harmony
When your family and friends ask when you will settle down some of you may decide to get on with it before you are ready. There are other couples who don’t choose each other but are brought together by tradition. Some come together by pure attraction.
Anthropologists found out that monogamy among mammals is rare and developed in order to stop males killing their rivals’ offspring. Once the males stayed around to look after their young, children were reared by more than one parent, enabling an extended childhood and brain development.
Children who are raised by harmonious couples perform better on all scores measuring adjustment, achievement and adaptability. When you are secure with your partner, your immune system works better. You are less vulnerable to illness.
A combination of evolution, tradition and desire brought you together. Making it work has multitude benefits for you, for your partner, and for your kids. To stay together in harmony is down to you.
Couples Stay Together In Harmony When They Strive To Be More Conscious
All relationships especially the one with your partner is a way of becoming more conscious. In fact being in a couple relationship brings you very quickly face-to-face with who you are and who you want to be.
- It all starts with honesty, first with yourself than with each other. Being true to yourself is not as easy as it sounds. Firstly, there is people’s conditioning. Secondly, there are unconscious drivers. They can cloud your relationship to yourself. Being honest with yourself isn’t as easy as you may think.
- Find out each other’s childhood wounds. They will help you to recognise and care for your sensitivities.
- Agree to disagree. Accept areas of disagreement.
- Give each other constructive feedback.
- Look for what you love in your partner, keep it in your foreground.
- Learn how to seduce each other. Enjoy regular sex with your partner.
- Learn many ways with which to make each other feel good, and use what you learn.
- Find out your dreams and help each other to fulfill them.
- Communicate at a deep level. Cherish conflict.
- Spend at least 20 minutes one-to-one together every day even if your schedules are pressurized. Every week you should spend at least half a day together; and every month at least a weekend.
Couples Therapy For Harmony
Professionals like me have studied what makes couples stay together in harmony for decades. There are many tools that will help you become harmonious. You don’t need to have big problems to want to benefit from this expertise for your family.
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